Attention: all, esp MPA's

[Katy M]

Please check out my thread entitled : 'desensitiized' under the 'open discussion' section of massageplanet.net ... I'd like as much input as possible on this ... especially from any MPA's/MP employees that may be members ... TIA

Is MPA a legit abbreviation ?... Abbreviation of Massage Parlour Attendant ... works for me ...

 

[Chinlak]

Just to let everyone know, I posted my thoughts in the general discussion area. Might be an interesting read for some guys, since it's coming from an mp gal....

angel
from the diary of a mp girl
I've worked in mp's for the past three years. I think all attendants are different, regarding their feelings about this type of situation. I know some girls only care about the money, and don't care whatsoever if you switch girls on them. Personally, I can't lie and say I don't care about loss of money, but there are other issues too. Whether you guys know or not, after working in this business for so long, my self esteem has been shot. I am a very busy girl with a big clientele, but still, my self esteem is very low, partly because of the situation you are talking about. See, it doesn't really bother me that you would choose another girl. What bothers me is when customers tell you how much they love you, how you are the best, they ask you out, tell you they'd do anything for you, and then the next day they see another girl right in front of your face and pretend they don't even know you! That hurts. I mean, regardless of our job, and our choice of being there, we are human beings with feelings, just like everyone else. I respect honesty more than bullshit. So ya, it's okay to switch girls...just dont tell girl #1 how awesome she is etc. and then see girl #2 in front of her face. I mean, if you want to switch, cool, it's your right as you are paying. But if you are going to do that, don't play with a girls feelings. As a side note, after working in this biz for so long, I don't think my self esteem will ever be repaired. When I'm at home, I look in the mirror and I know I'm a beautiful, great girl. But at work, guys walk in look me up and down, and tell me "your not my type", or have this disgusted look on their face, or look at me like I'm just some ho who doesnt even deserve to be talked to since I'm just a sexual outlet. Now this doesnt happen all the time, but it does happen frequently. And, believe me, I've seen it happen to the most beautiful girls in the biz too. Sometimes, I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that a lot of men feel insufficient in some ways, and feel they gain power out of "choosing girls" . I think some guys get a kick out of it. But these are also the guys that couldn't get girls like us in the real world, without paying for it. But of course, there are bad apples in every situation. Let me just say, that being judged soley on appearance for three years is not a good thing. Cause even though I know I'm worth more, it's hard to feel that way. And by the way, I don't hate my job. I just hate some of the feelings that come with it. And yes, it is my choice to be there... but I am human, I have feelings, and I feel everyone in this world deserves respect. It bothers me that at work all I am is tits and ass. But, I guess it's the price I pay to make the money I make. It's like selling a piece of your soul.

 

[The Goomba of Hope]

I have posted another reply in addition to my previous post in the open discussion forum...All those who replyed to my first post should read.... Angel

 

[OLD MAN OF KNOWLEDGE]

Many thanks to Angel for taking the time to share her perspective.
I replied in the original thread along with others heart felt responses.

desensitized

I think Angels point of view may be of interest to both MPA's and clients alike.

If any other MP girls would care to share their perspectives it would be much appreciated.
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In this world there is no black and white. Only shades of grey or would that be gray ? ...

 

[DeepThrust]

I understand the sentiment,but gimme a break.Most of the girls I know have learned to separate work life and the real world.Why would you let yourself get that emotionally attatched to your clients.I think that this is a self esteem problem that was there before the job.You would think that after a few months one would develop an extremely thick skin.Now in no way am I belittling your fellings for I am not you.I also think that all people should be treated with the utmost respect.Only when an induvidual has done wrong does my view of them change.If someone goes out and trys to purposely hurt another then they have my pity.I feel that you are a reflection of how you treat others and that the better you treat someone the better that they will treat you.OK enough I will get down from the pulpit.My two cents are in the hat.If I offended anyone I am sorry.Please this is not a flame just an opinion.

 

[allankw]

are we living in the fantacy here ? how can we separate work life and a real world while we're living in a real real world and the line between right and wrong is getting thin and thiner. I don't see anything wrong when some LF's getting emotionally attached to a client but I know, that's not soo easy............... just a thought

 

[yellowstar171]

All I am saying is that for me when work finishes the frustrations and problems are not brought into my house.If I have had a real bust your balls day my kids still want to play with daddy not some pissed of employee.It took a lot of practice but it can be done.I have a job and a life and the 2 rarely meet.Trust me it can be done.I would go insane otherwise.

 

[thumbs down for truth]

No but I did work in the ER at St.Mike's and like I said you have to be able to separate work and home.Trust me you don't know how important it is to be able to separate the to.No disrespect intended just speaking from my own experiences.IMHO .I don't want to turn this into a pissing contest so this is the last 2 cents from me on this topic.Enjoy life .You only get one chance you might as well enjoy it.