Getting what you want vs. meeting expectations.

[Lauren Shafique]

After reading the post about rimming and reviewing my own personal interest in going to mp's I have decided to try and share some of my experience in both meeting expectations and beyond that getting what I want out of a massage.
My main goal when going to an mp is to have sensual contact with the mpa which may include anything from lfk, dfk, bbbj, hugging, breast play(touching, caressing, sucking, licking, etc.), foot play(massaging, licking, sucking, foot job, etc.), daty, fetish play(for me its feet, pantyhose and encasement but im a freak), and about the only thing im truly not expecting nor wanting is any type of fs.
Now the question is how to realize any of these 'extras' so that expectations are met and possible wanton desires are also realized.
My route to the promised land is through mutual respect and the slow build up of sexual tension by not focusing on the areas that the mpa usually expects that will receive the most attention(i.e. pussy, ass, breasts, lips, etc.)
Because i always go for at least a NR i am usually successful in acheiving my goals by trying to give a better massage than i received, which usually isnt very hard as most mps have no formal training in massage therapy, and my focus is usually the mpa's feet which to my amazement are usually left out of the equation when giving a 'good' massage.
My technique ranges from simply running my finger nails along the bottom of the sole, nibbling on the heel, toe sucking, massaging the achilles tendon, running my teeth along the perimeter of the foot, etc.
I guess my goal when writing this is to find out how other hobbyists treat mpa's, what their expectations are, what their desires include, and most importantly how they acheive their means.
I dont know if my message will be scene as i intend it to be but any response would be appreciated.

 

[Pompal 09.]

I try to go into a session expeceting nothing more than a basic massage and release from an MPA.

Anything beyond that is always a welcome surprise and always appreciated.

It's not always the physical actions that makes the session good, but rather how comfortable your MPA is in the room that can make the session better than others.

 

[Pompal 09.]

Great concept flyingdgn.... its one I've been saying for years... low expections = better experience the majority of the time.

 

[DarkLard]

So your question is "What's the secret to getting the most mileage?"

To answer your questions, I treat MPA's with respect, meaning I don't push them with anything they are uncomfortable with. You have to be considerate and treat them like human beings. As for expectations, I go in expecting to have a good time. If mileage comes with it, all the better, but if not, I don't let it ruin a session. Going to see an MPA for the first time with the expectation of getting good mileage usually results in disappointment, unless you know ahead of time what she offers. Giving the MPA a good massage has almost always improved or benefitted me in the session. For some girls, giving them a good massage opens other doors, but for some it does nothing. If you 'click' with the MPA, that alone is a good enough reason to getting a better session.

 

[funnyarmor]

I hate the word mileage but you are correct in your assumptions except i already know how to acheive most of my goals and have tried to explain some of my technique towards that end.
I guess what im really interested in is how other members treat this subject and how they are able (or not able) to find what they are looking for.
I like the idea of low expections because everything that happens above and beyond the basics is seen as a bonus.
However, i personally find meeting higher expectations can be a much more rewarding experience especially when you have to exert yourself towards a satisfying(and hopefully mutually satisfying) end.

 

[FOB]

This is a little hard to explain, so I will make it simple ...

I go in with lowered expectations, when the time comes around for extras I usually tell her that I am okay with doing whatever you are comfortable doing. They almost always smile and I almost always have a great time. Pushing for extras gets you lower mileage, letting her feel comfortable allows for a session to be more rewardable.

It is really about you as soon as you walk in, there are many factors involved as mentioned in many discussions. The better you two get along during the massage mostly through conversation, the better the sessions ends up being.

Of course there are mpa out there that will always have a frame of mind that you will never get around, those may never be repeats.

VBB

 

[Cadillacman]

Actualy, a good foot massage is apreciated by any woman. It's pretty much guarenteed to bring a big smile to any woman's face. Want to impress any woman ya like, buy a jar of good cream and offer to give her a good foot massage. Women who on their feet alot such as flight attendants, or most mpas will greatly appreciate this.

~The Night Runner~

 

[gahrahstah]

If you go in with no expectations except to have a good time with a beautiful woman, then anything else is a bonus...

Certainly many clients tend to be fairly "mechanical" so if you arrive with a positive attitude, wanting to please the MPA she'll respond accordingly...

I like to suck on their toes and kiss their feet too, and the response has always been positive...

NOTE: just remember to ask the MPA to take her shoes off before she jumps on the table. Many seem to leave them on, then you don't get full access to those lovely toes

A couple of times I'd wondered if they'd deliberately left them on coz their feet were ticklish, but as it turned out most guys simply weren't interested so they didn't bother removing their highheels...

If they ask why, just tell thm you have a surprise which always goes over well...

While breast play is fairly standard fair, unfortunately there are no guarantees with regards to DATY, LK, DFK etc... The MPA may save that for regular clients, or it may not be on the menu at all...

Quite frankly I don't see MPA's for mileage. I see them coz I enjoy their company, and the release is an added bonus...

When I'm looking for REAL hot and heavy action with guaranteed results I call a FS escort....

 

[Drixnot]

Agree with consensus that minimal, reasonable expectations going in is the only safe way. Generally, repeats with MPA and mileage gets better. I genuinely love and adore every square millimeter of the female body, so enjoy giving a reasonably thorough massage, and have been rewarded. I see it as fun, sensual, and I try and learn things, what seems to work, etc. Never tried the feet thingy though. Going to next time.

But, in the getting what you want vs. expectations - I've noticed that first time with an MPA, even though I ask for NR, she'll almost never do it, even when I establish myself as a regular, just not yet with her. N yes, I've never been refused the R, she just never offers to switch, it's just the old flip over.

 

[TomIsMe]

...and then the next thing you know, you're clicking with her like you are long-lost lovers. It's an incredible GFE session and you can't wait unitl you see her next. Next thing you know, you are breaking all the rules with her which may even lead to fs.

 

[murphdog6]

Want better mileage, go in state "I am Sheik from massageplanet.net" and your wish will be granted.

 

[Kontra~Diction]

Expecting milage to be high with an MPA you've never seen before can lead to a serious let down.... than again you could be surpised in the most delightfull way.... who can say??? Only one way to find out and that is to go and see for yourself!!!!

 

[-Karma-]

That's how it was with Paige@IT, and now Faith at HFH...went in expecting just the basic....came out with that happy, surprised grin on my face...every now and then GOD smiles down on you!!