is there a reason my boyfriend wont introduce me to his son?

[jaydens_mommy.]

i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months. it has been going really good and were talking about moving in together soon. i have a 1 year old daughter and hes been in her life since she was 3 months old. he introduces his friends who are females to his child but for some reason he wont introduce meto his son. weve never really talked about and he told me that hes never been serious as he is with me and has never had his kid meet a serious girlfriend. i figure when we do live together though id have to meet him. ive talked to him on the phone but never met. anyother woman been involved with a man with a kid and had a similar problem>> thanks.
his son is 4 1/2 years old.

 

[audilicous4]

The kid might be afriad that "you're taking mommy's place" or something like that, Happened to a friend of mine.

 

[Jen]

Maybe you should have a serious sit down talk with him and ask if you could meet him, especially since he knows your daughter.

 

[Eli's mommy ~~~ Rosie]

I would ask him. Simple as that.

 

[webjnke1]

He might be afraid of how the son will react to him having a girlfriend.

 

[Mommy of 2 awesome babies]

Like the first two answerers said, ask him.

But 9 months really isn't that long. He probably wants to make sure that you are there for good and not some temporary person who will get close to his son and break his sons heart if you both break up.

Ask him once, but if he doesn't answer or doesn't give you an answer you are comfortable with, let it go for now...but onc eyou have moved in and a little time has gone by and you still haven't met his son. Then ask him again, but don't be so easy as to let it go if again he doesn't give you are reason.