Son's ex. fiancé wants to introduce us to her new bf. only 2 weeks after...

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...breakup. Should we let her? Our son dated and the became engaged to my best friends daughter, after a year and a half of dating, and having lived together (in our home) for 6 months. Both lived with us for nearly 8 months before finding their own apartment. They both worked at the same place, but she got fired for continually showing up late for her shift. She found another job a week later.

Just one months after that she broke up with our son, saying that she had found a new guy. That same day our son moved out of the apartment. And on that same day, she went and had dinner with the new guys parents. This to me would indicate that their relationship had already advanced a lot more then just friends.

Our son is very amicable about the whole situation, but has since found out that she had this guy over to their apartment while he was at work on numerous occasions. This to me would indicate that she cheated on him. Our son confronted the guy to tell him that he had greatly disrespected him for doing that, knowing that she was engaged. The guy admitted it and apologized to him for that. So it was confirmed, even though his fiance claims nothing went on.

It has not even been two weeks, but she is introducing the new guy to her family tonight. I was told that she will be bringing this guy over to meet us withing the next few days. She wants to know what we think about him, as she "values" our opinion. She has not even spoked to us since the break up. But our son made the effort to personally speak with her parents, so as to set matters straight (financial issues, personal possession and property issues)

Now the question is, should we let her bring him over and act like all is just fine? I feel it in very poor taste to do so when it has not even been two weeks since she broke off the engagement / 2 1/2 year relationship. Add to this that she wants our son to help her pay for the bills of their former apartment, in which she now lives with the new guy. She also no longer has a car, since the car belonged to our son, and she is now demanding that she should be allowed to use that car too. What the heck???? Is she insane for all of this, or am I just not up on modern etiquette? I don't feel I should allow her to bring this guy to our home at this point. Am I wrong for such an opinion?

 

[Lisa]

I dont think you are wrong at all. I would feel the same way. She has no right to ask your son to pay for an apartment that he is no longer staying at especially when another guy is with her. She also has no right to the car. It sounds to me like she has no respect for your son or your family. I would have no parts of helping her disrespect my son. She is greeeeedy and selfish. Your son is better off now and good that it happened before they got married or she prolly would get the car. I would not meet with her and her new boyfriend.

 

[MrsRed]

Never ever allow her or her boy toy into your home. Tell them to take a long walk off a short pier and to never speak to you. She is a disrespecting bitch and deserves nothing from you but a swift slam of the door hitting her in the butt.

 

[mango1cecrm]

NO. she is naive and her head is in the clouds. she is irresponsible (lost her job for being late, wants ur son to continue supporting her) She betrayed your family and does not deserve your support at this time. She is pretending that nothing is wrong and not taking responsibility for her actions. Do not let her take advantage of you.
Meeting her hew guy is not appropriate, he has nothing for you.

I would never think of introducing a new man to an ex's parents.

She needs to accept her mistakes and the consequences that come with it.

 

[Quinny]

No!!! Do not let this guy or girl back into ur house. Not only would it be disrespectful to ur son but he would see it as u bein ok with th situation. Like u were betrayin him. Why would any person want th approval of their ex's parents on a new partner?? This girl sounds like a psycho!!!! It also sounds like ur son was very submissive to her and let her walk all over him. It would b base treachery on ur part to allow either of them into ur house. Where are ur loyalties woman?????

 

[Juan]

That is definitely not modern etiquette, that girl is INSANE! you should keep her far away and your son should take everything he can back from her. because there is definitely something wrong with that woman.
and if she's been cheating all this time then i'm willing to bet she's a W***e

 

[mamaw2305]

I would say she has a lot of nerve ! Tell her to pay her own bills along with her new guy and for him to get her a car.She may be your best friends daughter but you don't have to put up with her disrespect for you and your son.Tell her that you are sorry but it is too soon for you to meet her boyfriend and you find it distasteful.What does she want to do rub your noses in what she is doing.She needs to grow up and find a heart

 

[serendipity]

Never invite TROUBLE to your home. For one, remember that your son's desire should be prioritized as well. And also, its one thing being friends, and its another crossing the limit. If you have no interest in meeting her new bf, then dont. She's nuts. Id be thanking my lucky stars that she's out of my son's life if I were you.

 

[sophia]

this is not your relationship. this is your sons and you've got to let him do whatever he wants. sorry

 

[shadedskies]

You're not wrong. I would feel the same way.