would you remember??

[Jakob Karytt]

I met a guy about two months when iI was out in an upmarket bar.

When he gave me his card at the end of the night and asked me to call him.. I remember looking at his card and thinking it looked really familiar.. Later I had a feeling that a client I once saw maybe three years ago gave me one just like it mpter a booking..

Putting that thought aside, I called the guy and have been seeing him regularly since then.. I think he is kind of like my boyReviewiend now.. Treats me very well.. Has given me a key to his home..

I haven't worked escort in a year, and didn't really have any intention of telling him that I had worked in the past..

Anyway... today when I was going through an old business card file... I found his card.. The one I remember..

Now I am wondering if he did see me once... And if so.. Does he remember me and just not say anything... Or does he not remember me at all?

I do not specifically remember seeing him in a booking.. I just remember the card being given to me in the apartment I used for work...

For girls, we see so many clients I think it would be hard for us to remember every clients face... but would you GUYS remember us?

Would you remember? ... and what if you did???

Your input apprecaited ...

 

[Dannygirl]

Interesting question

I remember the majority of WLs I've seen in some detail, yet for others there's nothing - utterly nothing - stored in my memory. Particular names in my dairy draw a blank (who the hell was 'Natasha'?). Yet in MOST cases I can remember faces, bodies, conversation topics, tastes in popular culture...

So it's definitely possible if you two did get together professionally that neither of you remember the other. But I'm thinking if you (correctly) recalled the business card then surely there would be other things that would have worked as memory triggers, if the two of you had previously been physically intimate.

Or maybe he's thinking that you're BOTH pretending not to remember, so that what you've now got doesn't become messy and spoiled. In which case IMHO he's doing the 'gentlemanly' thing.

 

[MattMCFC]

Ooooow what a pickle!

I think I remember ALL of the clients I have ever seen, but then again we wont count how many I've seen as it may get scarey. I couldnt possibly have remembered every single one could I?

I have the issue of living right in the middle of 'Suit City' in Sydney. I avoid going outside during lunchtimes or even day times unless it is on weekends. Why? Because guys stare at me. I've been told recently it is because men like to perve, but seriously, when I am not dressed for loving I more resemble one of those welfare worker looking types than a gorgeous enchantress.

The worst time is lunch times when you have no food in your house - this happens regularly with Ladies as we as a race don't seem to enjoy shopping for food. It's like we all have an allergy to Coles. So every now and then one gets sick of living off chocolate and coffee and must venture out to .... FOOD COURT LAND!!! In FOOD COURT LAND there are literally a gazillion suits sitting, standing and perving everywhere. A quick in and out mission is impossible due to the long lines of Suits. So you stand in line being paranoid you may have had sex with one or two of the gentlemen and they know it but you don't.

It's not the fact you have probably bonked one or two of the guys in FOOD COURT LAAAAND, it's more you don't KNOW which one or two you bonked. It's the not knowing that kills me.

Soooo I always find myself thinking... have I bonked him or does he remember me Reviewom my website?! I am literally kept prisoner in my unit Reviewom paranoia that someone knows me but I dont know them.

I feel your pain Misty I really really do. Ultimately as long as your a happy camper and the boy makes you smile LOADS, I suppose for us that's all that can matter.

MMwaaah and good luck with love in life

Lucy

 

[Terrel W]

Oh wow ... what a great subject for a thread!

I have absolutely no doubt that I would remember a lady I'd visited if we bumped into each other on the street. No doubt at all. Whether she would remember me is another thing though, of course.

It hasn't happened to me yet and I don't know how I would react although I suspect that I'd be pretty cool about it. I did get pinched coming out of an establishment once by a work colleague and that worked out OK despite the initial shock (laughs).

One other thing is that I would LOVE to form a 'real life' relationship with one or two WL's that I have got to know quite well (because I keep going back to a good thing). Having said that I've never pursued any potential because its a professional situation, right? And it would be wrong (probably) to ask. Having said that .... "if you don't ask, you don't get ..." .... mmmmmm

I think a WL job helps them so much to be grounded and "real world" and whilst they are gorgeous and wonderful people they thankfully lack overt pretentious or princessy qualities ... I find that very attractive in a girl and reckon it would make a wonderful basis for a longer term relationship ....

Anyway that's my contribution to this thought provoking thread!

Hope it works out with this guy @ misty, should you want it too!

 

[Dayana]

Misty, although I can't remember every lady's name (which is around a dozen), I can remember most of their faces, particularly the ones who provided a great service.

 

[ek 5]

There's no way that I could remember every girl that i've seen over the years.

I do however remember those who made a session really memorable and of course those girls i was lucky enough to call my regulars.

I'm really terrible with appearences though, many times I have walked straight past Reviewiends, extended family, coworkers and w/ls and not even batted an eyelid. It's only when they call out my name that I realise who they are sometimes lol

 

[MSB]

If I had sex with a woman, I would remember her face, even many years later. If I had just bumped into her in a brothel, it is unlikely that I would remember her unless I met her again very shortly mpterwards and then I may not remember where I had met her before.

If by some chance I bumped into a W/L I knew in a social situation, or shopping, I would consider it extremely bad manners to approach her or make any overt indication that I knew her Reviewom elsewhere, although not because I would be ashamed of our "working" relationship. I might smile unobtrusively as I would at any attractive woman.

 

[Billys]

I ran into a WL recently in a New Farm shop, at first it took me a moment to recognize her (given the presence of normal practical clothes she had on etc). I smiled and that was about it, not really sure if she recognized me but anyway she was busy with someone. I am sure they are praticed at ignoring.

Lucy - I'm sorry you had a bad time last, hope to see you if you make it back to Bris!

 

[Mohit]

Misty Reviewom my subjective perspective, the gentleman is very likely not to have remembered you, for the same reasons you did not recall him. (1) it was 3 years ago (2) you have had other clients, and he is likely to have seen other WL's and had other partners since.

In the intervening three years the gentleman is likely to have interacted with many diverse people, professionally and socially. Let us put it context. When we look back on our old school photo's can we name all the people in the picture, including the names of the people who may have been very a Reviewiend for that year of our life. The reality is thus, the effluxion of time does dim the memory. And even though it is an important and significant part of life, like all memories, good or bad, we never remember every highly charged life experience.

As a mental exercise within the last twelve months I once tried to draw up a list of all the women I have experienced in a biblical sense, ex-girlReviewiends, WL's, other partners, breaking them down into sub-categories to act as an aid to memory ie. that girl Reviewom Sunnybank, and I couldn't do it. Not that there was a long list, or that each woman was not special in her own way, it was rather a matter of life moving on and new memories replacing the old.

Moreover, there is the reality, brain cells are like any other cell in our body, they died, and new ones are created to replace them. And whilst I am on the science tangent at present we all know that alcohol is a big killer of brain cells. To that end it sounds very fortuitous indeed that you met him in the up market bar. May the Absinthe dim the memories even further.

With all that said Misty, you must be realistic here and accept the fact that he will ultimately remember. So your question to this forum should be not a question of if, but when. This may not occur until you have grown old together, and senility has set in on his part. When they reach that age they remember things Reviewom 50 years ago with great clarity, but cannot remember that they left their dentures in the glass on top of the vanity basin. My personal suggestion would be for you to exchange some deep and meaningful email messages with some of the WL's on this site about the prospects and challenges of having a relationship whilst currently working as a WL, and informing your partner or prospective partner this fact. I say currently for a reason. The gentleman may not neccessarily distinguish between the past and present so it would be best to work on the assumption that it is a current fact. Furthermore, by working on this assumption that it is a current fact also works to your advaneforum.xxxe as it would serve to remove the "What If" second guessing that is currently troubling you at present.

Returning now to your original question as to whether the members of this forum have any advice for you, I do have one other suggestion to put to you. If you do choose to speak to your partner about your past mutual association you may want to consider broaching it as a "legal fiction". To this end you want to put it to your partner what they would think of you if you were to tell them that you had previously engaged in a "swinging" sort of lifestyle, and in turn you could turn the question around to ask them whether they themselves had engaged in such a lifestyle. This approach would serve to establish that you are both sexually active adults, and that you have been with other people before you met each other. Reviewom this foundation you can move any potential discussion to whether he has ever been whether with a WL. Please contemplate the matter, why should this solely be about you and your past. mpter all, he has one himself. By establishing his thoughts you should be in a position to gague his reaction to any admission on your part as to being a former WL. At this point I would suggest you use the legal fiction as to what is in essence the difference between a woman who is a swinger, and a woman who is a WL. In essence you could contend, very little as both are simply sexually active adults engaging in consensual sex. And if a distinction can be drawn, it is one the fact that one is business person, providing a service for payment. The other simply does it for Reviewee. In this context you are probably the person with greater nous and accumen over the social swinger.

What I have expressed above is not pro forma methodology, far Reviewom it. It represents simply some suggestions as to how you may want to consider broaching the matter. Without question there would be better ways of resolving your dilema. Whatever method you choose it must at the end of the day be one you are comfortable with yourself.

Before finishing I will make one other quick comment. I find Reviewom experience and observation the following truism: confidence is a matter of not being fearful what other people may think. You should not approach your dilemma Reviewom the perspective that your partner will not react badly. Rather, that they will accept you for who you are, warts and all. That they will cherish and value you as a precious and unique individual, now, and into the future.

 

[anica2831]

I have had sex with so few different women (catholic upbringing) that I remember each and every one of them with very fond pleasure.

 

[elizabethbyers377]

Conumdrum

Misty - Padders, although very deep and meaninful, has raised some very good issues.

The fact that you have asked the question in this forum (do us guys remember) means that this little nagging doubt continues to be in your thoughts and you either need to forget about it entirely or, conReviewont it in some way.

Firstly it was 3 yrs ago and both of you have changed. He only saw you once and probably you looked different and were (un) dressed differently. However that said, although I may not remember faces so well, I DO remember women Reviewom a passion perspective. So it's more than the look he may recall but the way you behave/interact sexually.

So, my 2 bob's worth if you really want to go down memory lane. Choose your moment and play a bit of Truth or Dare.

Maybe Tell him a 'dark secret' in that once, many years ago, you phoned a guy and paid for sex. Has he ever done the same? I'm sure you get the idea.

Good luck and remember most of us guys who avail ourselves to WL's are not judgemental and have a great deal of respect for what you do/did.

 

[CrystalZephyr]

Face recognition

I thought the human brain had some kind of way of remebering faces and providing the recollection. Persoannly I now I get an inkling when I see one of the ladies I've visited and seen her in the street.

Then there was the lady whom I visited once and a few months late I was in the paper on a community issue. Next time I saw her she commented on having recognised me....which I denied ever having been in the paper.

Then there was another lady I saw lined up in a CBD food outlet for lunch, coming Reviewom behind I thought she had a great ass. As I drew beside her in the queue I recognised her, felt good.

Maybe mp.nets might recognise some ladies ass first.

As a relationship point for Misty...you are going to have to come out and deal with it...those lingering doubts are going to eventually destroy the longer term relationship.

Besides what guys gives his business card to a wl?

 

[CL3VZ323]

Face recognition

Besides what guys gives his business card to a wl?

Lol could have been a landscape artist looking to mow her lawn he he.

 

[Nadz46]

Interesting one!!!!

I do tend to always remember a face & also voices! What I have found amazing is a couple of guys that saw me as another name did not recall I was the same girl till I told them! Amazing I was thinking gosh how many girls do these guys see!!! So I guess that mean's it is possible for the guy not to recall you!

As long as your both happy, I don't see anything wrong with each partner keeping a little bit of their past to themselfs. The past can stay in the past & mpter all once you have said something you cannot take it back.

Like most WL I tend to keep my eyes down in public, I don't feel the need to say hello when I am not in my Heidi role!

Happy weekend to all!

 

[Negeshia]

Just taking this off thread a bit because another issue has been raised: What would you see wrong with giving your business card to a W/L. Wouldn't you give your card to any other professional that you saw? Do you have a profession/trade/job that you don't think a W/L would utilize? Why shouldn't she use your services? Admittedly, in some professions there might be ethical dilemmas, but not that many. If you were a mechanic for instance, what would be wrong with giving her your card and promising a discount?