You can call it whatever you want. I don't actually think it's an addiction as I have stopped with no problem for long periods of time over the years. I have long been in a happy marriage and adore my wife. We still have great sex, but she has never had as high a sex drive and hers has diminished over the years whereas mine hasn't so gap has grown wider. I have been more active than usual lately since discovering OM and it's lovely roster, but those spurts always taper off for me. To me it's a hobby in the sense that it is fun and relaxing and I have friends who spend a lot more on other dumb hobbies. If you want to consider it an addiction who the hell cares. I think it makes my marriage better (or at least eliminates any conflict) and I can afford what I spend on it without sacrificing anything else of significance, so it's not destroying my life like other addictions typically would. My wife is well taken care of and would be the first to admit that. I do sometimes feel badly about the hobby and have thought about telling her. Part of me thinks she would understand and we could get past it, but I've taken the advice of other veterans over the years and kept my mouth shut, which I now accept is probably the best way to go.