Chat Does my favourite MPA like me or not???

[OG_funguy]

So, she likes you, but you're digging a hole for yourself. You see in her something you're not getting at home. Is it worth it? Only you can answer that. Look what happened to LostInnocence. At least he was getting sex - presumably. The only way not to fall into the rabbit hole is to not dig one.

LostInnocence was a truly "romance" kind of guy. I'm like that in a sense but much more pragmatic...at least usually . Your last sentence is absolutely correct and if this doesn't end well, I will not dig one again.

 

[Greenberg]

My friend, you’re begging the question: The heart has its reasons that reason does not know. You’re still seeking assurances to avoid making a mistake. What happens if I were to tell you that you can still fail even if you do all the right things. Live your life boldly; you’ll not regret it.

 

[freewilly416]

In another alternate universe it may have worked, but come back to reality.

I met some seeet ladies, some I would have dated had I been single and didn’t know of their profession.

However, girlfriend/wifey material MPA’s are not. Keep fantasy as a fantasy and don’t even think of getting emotionally involved with any of these women. They chose the profession, and you chose to be a client.

I have loved one person in my life. That was enough. Love is a losing game.

 

[OG_funguy]

My friend, you’re begging the question: The heart has its reasons that reason does not know. You’re still seeking assurances to avoid making a mistake. What happens if I were to tell you that you can still fail even if you do all the right things. Live your life boldly; you’ll not regret it.

Are you suggesting to go all in with the MPA?

 

[OG_funguy]

In another alternate universe it may have worked, but come back to reality.

I met some seeet ladies, some I would have dated had I been single and didn’t know of their profession.

However, girlfriend/wifey material MPA’s are not. Keep fantasy as a fantasy and don’t even think of getting emotionally involved with any of these women. They chose the profession, and you chose to be a client.

I have loved one person in my life. That was enough. Love is a losing game.

That's definitely the pragmatic approach. It's probably the right one too, my brain is telling me that. But heart is somewhere else...

 

[Leviathan]

Most of these guys will tell you to run. Why waste your time. It’s bad news. It will never work out . Blah blah.

Who the fuck cares ? Lots of these guys are destined or resigned to be alone. Lots of them may have been dealt a bad hand. Lots of them may think they are actually a great catch but in reality they are not. Lots of them believe they are alpha males and scared to be intimate and trust cause they got burned b4 and it shows in their personality and interaction. Girls can sense it. Lots of them are a poor judge of character.

I’ve experienced both great characters and gamers SP relationships. You know who are the scammers and just want your money. Its “slow play” ones that are tricky but time and consistency is the true test of character .

Human Behaviour is driven incentives - monetary and non monetary.

That's definitely the pragmatic approach. It's probably the right one too, my brain is telling me that. But heart is somewhere else...

 

[Greenberg]

Are you suggesting to go all in with the MPA?

My friend, it doesn’t matter what we all say here, you’ve already made up your mind. There’s no right or wrong here; just move forward.

 

[luvasians]

no

 

[Deleted member 64273]

LostInnocence was a truly "romance" kind of guy. I'm like that in a sense but much more pragmatic...at least usually . Your last sentence is absolutely correct and if this doesn't end well, I will not dig one again.

That's the problem. You are digging the rabbit hole now, and usually once is enough to fuck up your life.

 

[Leviathan]

There are only a few possible outcomes :

1) wife finds out - worst case outcome
2) high school fling terminated - low-mid case outcome . He will overcome his temporary loss
3) status quo outcome part time mistress

So what’s new? Same shit risk /reward probabilities through out history.

That's the problem. You are digging the rabbit hole now, and usually once is enough to fuck up your life.

 

[Leviathan]

Here is a proposal to OP. Pm this MPs name /shop and I will test out how truly she is committed to you ? I will slow play her and promise to be respectful . LoL

 

[OG_funguy]

There are only a few possible outcomes :

1) wife finds out - worst case outcome
2) high school fling terminated - low-mid case outcome . He will overcome his temporary loss
3) status quo outcome part time mistress

So what’s new? Same shit risk /reward probabilities through out history.

Sounds like you've seen it and done it. That's why I posted this, i.e. to learn from others. The other outcome you haven't listed is that I actually leave the wife to be with her. Yes, this is low probability but it's definitely crossed my mind and I wouldn't say it can't happen. However, it won't happen unless I'm able to get to know her better.

 

[OG_funguy]

Here is a proposal to OP. Pm this MPs name /shop and I will test out how truly she is committed to you ? I will slow play her and promise to be respectful . LoL

I HAVE definitely thought about that but I don't know anybody here and don't know who to trust. Plus, I'll be honest, I don't know if I can handle it if she ends up being like this with others. Would you agree to back off once we find out how far she goes with you? Anyways, let me think about it.

 

[Leviathan]

Leaving wife assuming (assuming no kids) is half your assets gone. So the due diligence and potential upside better be worth it as a long term investment?

I purposely left it out because your existing relationship would need to be toxic and unbearable . LoL

Sounds like you've seen it and done it. That's why I posted this, i.e. to learn from others. The other outcome you haven't listed is that I actually l leave the wife to be with her. Yes, this is low probability but it's definitely crossed my mind and I wouldn't say it can't happen. However, it won't happen unless I'm able to get to know her better.

 

[Leviathan]

You define the protocols and I will abide by it and keep the results confidential to only you.

Think of it as risk management ? For free. Or roll the dice and trust your heart and judgement ?

I HAVE definitely thought about that but I don't know anybody here and don't know who to trust. Plus, I'll be honest, I don't know if I can handle it if she ends up being like this with others. Would you agree to back off once we find out how far she goes with you? Anyways, let me think about it.

 

[Homerun001]

So, she likes you, but you're digging a hole for yourself. You see in her something you're not getting at home. Is it worth it? Only you can answer that. Look what happened to LostInnocence. At least he was getting sex - presumably. The only way not to fall into the rabbit hole is to not dig one.

That's the problem. You are digging the rabbit hole now, and usually once is enough to fuck up your life.

No one on here will give you the right or wrong answers, everyone's opinions are based on experiences inside and outside the spa, and a non MPA woman is already complicated enough in today's world and that is why many men seek a fantasy to escape all their problems, and feel good about themselves, without any strings attached once the fantasy is over and back to the real world of work, friends, family bla bla.. if you want to be with an MPA outside the spa for friendship, fun, company, and it does not break your wallet do it, but the reality is that if the MPA is active in the biz, she is active with others, and you have to be ok with that and not let it tear you down piece by piece. How many horror stories heard of men leaving wives for a co worker, client, friend and it turns out bad, and most of those woman are career like woman, and in the end than man regrets fucking up his life where marriage and kids are involved, seen this at my workplace, and reality is hard to swallow, and hits ones wallet big time. In the end, if a man wants to leave his wife, kids, girlfriend, fiance for an active MPA, he should be ok with her profession and accept it, if not, enjoy the ride, affair, fling , whatever you want to call it and establish an end game once the MPA moves on or you move on.

 

[Leviathan]

He is still in the exciting dating exploration stage and vetting stage. . Let him play it out for 2 - 3 years by living with her first ? He will have a better sense of reality before pulling the plug on existing wifey ? LoL

The OP has “emotional or physical or financial pain” with wife and assumption it’s unresolvabke. That’s the catalyst. He has 2 options pursue girl or look for a better fish. Or play .

No one on here will give you the right or wrong answers, everyone's opinions are based on experiences inside and outside the spa, and a non MPA woman is already complicated enough in today's world and that is why many men seek a fantasy to escape all their problems, and feel good about themselves, without any strings attached once the fantasy is over and back to the real world of work, friends, family bla bla.. if you want to be with an MPA outside the spa for friendship, fun, company, and it does not break your wallet do it, but the reality is that if the MPA is active in the biz, she is active with others, and you have to be ok with that and not let it tear you down piece by piece. How many horror stories heard of men leaving wives for a co worker, client, friend and it turns out bad, and most of those woman are career like woman, and in the end than man regrets fucking up his life where marriage and kids are involved, seen this at my workplace, and reality is hard to swallow, and hits ones wallet big time. In the end, if a man wants to leave his wife, kids, girlfriend, fiance for an active MPA, he should be ok with her profession and accept it, if not, enjoy the ride, affair, fling , whatever you want to call it and establish an end game once the MPA moves on or you move on.

 

[JaimeWolf]

That's definitely the pragmatic approach. It's probably the right one too, my brain is telling me that. But heart is somewhere else...

This is likely the case with her as well - heart says yes, head says she needs to find someone unattached with more money than you

 

[OG_funguy]

You define the protocols and I will abide by it and keep the results confidential to only you.

Think of it as risk management ? For free. Or roll the dice and trust your heart and judgement ?

I will give this serious thought. It's basically akin to hiring someone to try and seduce your wife. We all know that under the right circumstances and with the right person, even our spouses would be extremely vulnerable. Now do this test in an MP environment...you know where I'm going. Not sure it's a fair fight. I like that you will let me define the protocols but how can I be sure you'll honor them?

Also, can you tell me a bit more about yourself, i.e. nationality, approximate age, etc.

You can PM me this info if you don't want to post it.

 

[Leviathan]

Me Being Anonymous is best possible situation. Fair fight ? Life is not fair. What is fair? It’s the risk reward bet you are wagering against. If your conscience feels better hire a pro detective with the perfect profile . Good luck !

How will you know I will honour the protocols ? What do I have to gain by breaking it? Nothing. I have my goto girls already and been hobbing for well over a decade.

The less you know the better. Again it’s an offer . I couldn’t care less if you reject or accept. It’s a favour to you since you publicly posted your situation. Review my history of posts and you should get a solid sense of my personality.

I will give this serious thought. It's basically akin to hiring someone to try and seduce your wife. We all know that under the right circumstances and with the right person, even our spouses would be extremely vulnerable. Now do this test in an MP environment...you know where I'm going. Not sure it's a fair fight. I like that you will let me define the protocols but how can I be sure you'll honor them?

Also, can you tell me a bit more about yourself, i.e. nationality, approximate age, etc.

You can PM me this info if you don't want to post it.