In introduced my best friend to a cousin i no longer speak to and its...

[Bellatrix]

...causing issues.. we are all adults. help? I am 27. My BFF and cousin are 30. I've been close with both of them for many years, sperately. Summer 2008 I introduced them and they realized they had some shared work experience etc and hit it off. We all partied a lot at my cousins where she is like some queen with her king. They rarely go outside the house and like to "people collect".
So my cousin got married oct 08 and I helped her out a lot but in the end she couldnt even say thanks and among many other issues was mad at me for being upset that she couldnt push her informal rehersal back a half hour because I had a class exam but could wait for the best man who was MIA for so long they thought he was in jail! Anywho, after all of this hurt I seperated from the group and my BFF is still madly in love with them. My grandfather passed away in may 09 and cousin and i "bonded" and agreed that we were all we had. We texted a little after but that was it. My bff sings my cousins praises and it bothers me. My cousin now seems pretentious, self serving and fake to me. Not to mention that she's hot headed etc etc but my bff hasnt seen this side of her. My bff insists that i come back in the loop.. i refuse because of my cousin attitude and it would, i'm sure, seem like some puppy coming back with tail between legs but i did nothing wrong and refuse to be that person. She tells me how miserable i am because I'd rather sit home alone than with people like the old crew.
I dont even know what to do about my bff. I must say her relationship with my cousin does not cut into our time but at the same time i'm thinking of finding a new bff.
Advice?

 

[EnigMA]

your bff is giving you a perfect opportunity to forgive the past and move forward in a positive direction with your cousin. sounds like there is some pride getting in the way. life is short. you would only regret not reconnecting eventually. peace